Are we friends in all weather or not ?

A very touching topic is friends and family when you are out for an accident, get very sick or like me out for accident and have to life with persisting severe pain.
You can never be sure if friends and family will stick by your side when the unexpected happens.
You can never blame a person for why they don't stay when you need them as most.
I have find a number of reasons why friends and family suddenly disappear:
1. They are afraid of talking about their problems with you cause they believe you have enough and they also think that their problem is something minor compared with yours(but that is not the truth).
2. They are afraid of meeting you. They don't know how to talk with you, how to approach. If they can laugh or if they should meet you with a lower tone.
3. They don't know if they should ask how you feel. And if they should take up at all what has happened with you.

So instead many choose to slowly disappear. And I do understand them. It's not easy how to act against a person that is out for something terrible.
But I do want to tell you something in all that you should know. We are all still the same person deep down no matter if we have lost a function, if we have lost someone dear or whatever we have been out for.
No questions are dumb, no acting are dumb. But please don't leave us in the misery on our own.
It's now we really need you. I always think of the song "That's what friends are for".

And I never thought I'd feel this way
And as far as I'm concerned
I'm glad I got the chance to say
That I do believe I love you
And if I should ever go away-ay
Well then close your eyes and try
Feel the way we do today
And then if you can remember

Keep smilin', keep shinin'
Knowin' you can always count on me-ee, for sure
That's what friends are for
For good times and bad times
I'll be on your side forever more-ore
That's what friends are for

Well you came and opened me
And now there's so much more I see
And so by the way I thank you
Woh, and then for the times when we're apart
Well then close your eyes and knowT
he words are comin' from my heart
And then if you can remember